I'm Gary Redmond
I'm a qualified counsellor with more than twenty-five years' experience working with individuals and couples experiencing anger, relationship difficulties and emotional distress,
with a particular specialisation in anger management.
After practising for twelve years in Cheltenham, I moved my practice to Shrewsbury eight years ago, where I continued seeing individuals and couples before stepping away from counselling three years ago to concentrate on my writing and the further development of my approach, including my book
The End of RIPP. I've now decided to come out of retirement and return to the work I've spent much of my life doing — working directly with people. I'm once again seeing clients face-to-face at my private practice in Shrewsbury.
My professional background began in conventional counselling. I trained as a counsellor and was formerly an accredited member of the Irish Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (IACP). I also trained and qualified as a life coach and NLP Practitioner.
Over the years, however, my way of working developed in a particular direction. I became increasingly interested in something I repeatedly saw in my work: intelligent, caring people could find themselves reacting to situations in ways they didn't understand and often deeply regretted. Rather than concentrating only on what happened, I became interested in what happens within us in response to what happened. That understanding has shaped the way I work today.
A Practical Approach to Change
My approach is active, practical and focused on the difficulties that have brought you to counselling.
We don't assume that you need to spend months analysing your past before something can begin to change. Your past matters, and when it is relevant we talk about it, but our starting point is what is happening in your life now.
What triggers the reaction?
What happens within you?
Why does the same pattern keep repeating?
And what would need to change for you to respond differently?
For more than twenty-five years, these questions have shaped my work with people experiencing very different problems.
The circumstances may be different, but the objective is the same: to understand what is keeping you stuck and help you find a different way forward.
Three Ways The Counsellor Coach Can Help
Anger Management
Anger can damage relationships, affect family life and leave you regretting things you have said or done.
My approach to anger management goes beyond simply teaching techniques for controlling your temper. We look at what is driving the angry response, why particular situations affect you so strongly and what happens before anger takes control.
The aim is not to stop you ever feeling angry. It is to help you understand the process behind your anger so that you can begin responding differently.
Explore Anger ManagementRelationships & Couples Counselling
Relationships can become caught in repeating cycles of arguments, resentment, defensiveness, withdrawal and disconnection.
Often both people know that something needs to change, but attempts to resolve the problem simply lead back to the same argument.
Rather than concentrating on who is right and who is wrong, we look at what is happening between you — what each of you is reacting to and how those reactions may be keeping the conflict going.
The aim is to help you step outside the cycle so that you can begin dealing with the real issues between you from a more constructive place.
Explore Relationships & Couples CounsellingEmotional Freedom
Sometimes the difficulty isn't primarily anger or a relationship. You may be experiencing anxiety, stress, grief, persistent unhappiness or emotional reactions that seem difficult to escape.
I don't begin by reducing you to a label. We begin with you, what is happening in your life and what you are experiencing in response to it.
Together we look at the patterns that may be contributing to your emotional distress and how greater awareness can create more choice in the way you respond.
Explore Emotional FreedomWhat Makes My Approach Different?
I don't believe counselling has to mean sitting passively while you talk and I simply listen.
Of course, being heard and understood matters. But I also believe you have come because you want something to change.
Our work is therefore active and collaborative. I will listen carefully, ask questions, offer observations and help you look at what is happening from perspectives you may not have considered before.
We begin working with the problem that brought you to me from our first session.
Over more than twenty-five years, this way of working has developed into my own understanding of the emotional processes that can keep people trapped in anger, conflict and emotional distress.
You don't need to learn a theory or adopt a particular philosophy. We work with what is actually happening in your life.
Experience Matters
Over the years I have worked with people from many different backgrounds and at very different stages of their lives.
Some have come because anger was threatening their relationship. Some were couples who had reached the point where they no longer knew how to communicate without conflict. Others were struggling with anxiety, grief, stress or persistent unhappiness.
No two people are exactly the same, which is why I don't believe in forcing everyone through the same therapeutic process.
What I bring is more than twenty-five years of experience, professional training and a practical way of working that has developed through thousands of hours spent helping people understand and change the patterns affecting their lives.
Taking the First Step
You don't need to know exactly what is wrong or what kind of counselling you need before contacting me.
If something in your life, relationship or emotional wellbeing needs to change, we can begin by looking at what is happening and what you would like to be different.
Sessions take place privately at my practice in Shrewsbury.
