We got in touch with Gary when our relationship was hanging by a thread. I did some research into local counsellors and therapists and Gary stood out by a mile. Just from his website, I knew he was exactly what we needed. We didn't want our relationship to end but things had happened that we didn't think a relationship could survive, despite loving each other and having children together. We went to Gary with a common goal and that was to understand why our relationship had taken a turn for the worse and what could we do to come out of the other side as a stronger and happier couple. Gary was unbiased and non-judgemental; he was easy to talk to, even when things were hard to say. To say that seeing Gary has been life-changing for both of us, personally and as a couple, would be an understatement. Gary helped us to understand our individual attachment personalities and what that means for us in a relationship - taking us back to our starts in life and our relationships with our primary carers. This was so insightful and a breakthrough for us in understanding why we respond to certain situations the way that we do. We had a couple of sessions together, a few sessions apart and then a couple more sessions together. That's it. We covered relationship counselling, depression, anger management and more importantly for us, how to change the way we think and act to ensure that we don’t spiral downwards again. We went through both the Rapid Behavioural Reconditioning (RBR) programme and the RIPP (Resistance, Injustice, Powerless, Pain) technique. They were both so meaningful and so effective. I've seen therapists before but all they really did was put a short-term plaster over the pain or anxiety. Through Gary's methods, we worked on finding the root cause to change the behaviour and conditioning for good. I can honestly say my husband and I have never been happier, and we have found a way to survive what some would consider the ultimate test in a relationship. We truly have a stronger, more empathetic and loving relationship now. My only regret is that we didn’t see Gary sooner but sometimes it takes until breaking point before you realise you need to do something about it. Gary - you saved our marriage, our relationship, our personal demons and our family and we can't thank you enough.
Anonymous Couple Cheltenham July 2019
When I arrived for my first session, sad, unhappy, confused, and fearful, with a head full of bad memories that were haunting my present, Gary helped me put everything into perspective. His logic and reasoning extraordinary, and his ability to see in me what I couldn’t see in myself is quite remarkable. 2 sessions and I am back to being me, I cannot thank him enough for this, and I cannot recommend him highly enough.
Anonymous Cheltenham 2017
I am so pleased to recommend Gary for both personal and couples therapy. In fact, I recommend him to everyone I know!
My husband and I were locked into a repetitive and destructive pattern in our relationship ... we are caring people and I have some experience with therapy as a practitioner myself! We were bewildered and desperate!
We swallowed our pride and went to see Gary without much hope and as a last resort.
We left the first session with hope and smiles! We felt that Gary was with us and for us. He steered us from our negative behaviours to why and how! His 'rip' explanation is illuminating and helpful ... he helps us to understand ourselves deeply and has an ability to connect with us as individuals and inspire us forwards.
Progress is fast and enjoyable and my husband and I are closer, stronger and happier for meeting the challenge of personal and marital difficulties and getting to the other side.
We are eternally grateful to Gary, and again offer our wholehearted recommendation.
Anonymous Stroud 2017
I had always considered myself to be mentally very strong but 2016 was an immensely painful and difficult year for me. In January 2016 something happened which caused me to experience a mental breakdown which I would never have believed I was capable of and, in fact, I refused to acknowledge for several months until physical symptoms also began to manifest.
I had tried conventional counselling in February/March 2016 but found this a terribly negative experience and therefore very counter-productive. I stopped attending and thought I could simply carry on with my life and "power through" the difficulties.
However, I became progressively more unwell and by May I was unable to work or to properly function in day to day life. It was at this time I recognised that I needed help beyond standard counselling. Through a search engine I came across Gary and, like you now, I read the testimonials. The issues I was battling with were complex. I could see no resolution to my problems and I felt there was no realistic prospect that I could be "fixed".
I had six weekly sessions with Gary in May/June 2016. Unlike the earlier counselling I had undertaken, the sessions with Gary were a proper two-way interaction. I did not need to go into too much intimate detail and yet Gary had incredible insight into why I was reacting to situations as I was and he helped me to understand how I "ticked", how past events had shaped my behaviours. Gary has a very calm manner and made me feel very at ease. His help also extended beyond the actual sessions and he would send text messages and provide links to useful information to read.
To my amazement I did not need to actively change or do anything. I simply felt what I can only describe as a mental "inner shift" one day, leaving me calm, at peace with myself, and in control. Most notably I have learnt to accept what I cannot change and to always live for the "now", that the past has gone and cannot hurt me.
Plainly and simply, Gary's methods work. I will always feel a huge debt to Gary for his support and, most particularly, for his guidance towards achieving a happier life. I have no hesitation in wholeheartedly recommending Gary to you.
J, Gloucestershire January 2017
I came to Gary at an increasingly difficult point in my life, my Mother with whom I was very close, had suddenly passed away, and I experienced a tremendous grief not only from the loss of my Mother but also from the failure I felt at the inability to defeat her 25 year acute bipolar disorder, this feeling of failure was compounded by initiating a final resuscitation attempt the morning of her death that also failed. The net impact was a myriad of very burdensome feelings ranging from loss, guilt, failure, grief, anxiety and rage. Garry's practical and personable approach helped me to gain a perspective that I hadn't want to consider or accept. After experiencing CBT ten years ago and gaining little value, Garry's understanding and insight were a revelation to me, helping to lift the heavy load proving much needed mental space to process accept and embrace reality. In a relatively short period of time he has provided the tools I need to be fit for life, accepting it wont all be a bed of roses but remaining grounded in the present is the best present we can give ourselves and others - thank you for your time Gary
Anonymous Cheltenham 2017
Gary Redmond has a gift to give our angry world. It is the gift of understanding our anger - why, when and how we get angry - and empowerment to take control of our own lives by simply disallowing anger from manifesting itself in actions that are detrimental to ourselves and those around us. Gary recognizes that we cannot cure anger and indeed that anger is a healthy, natural human response. We cannot eliminate it completely and we should not expect to... however, by recognising our anger in the very moments that it takes its dark hold on us, and by recognising that our actions in the next moments can cause us more pain, more anger; we can overcome the negative effects of anger and truly free ourselves from an angry life.
No good can come from hurling your internal anger at someone else, even if you believe that person has caused your internal pain - I have learned that the hard way. Turning anger into indendiary bombs only incites more anger. Anger expressed poorly spreads like wildfire between people and the internal flames can only burn hotter when anger is unleashed. My own anger is explosive and has severely damaged my relationships, my family, my lifestyle and my outlook.
Gary’s revolutionary new system has helped me to overcome my angry ways using just 4 words. The simplest of solutions can emerge from great underlying complexity and analysis. Gary has devoted his career to understanding the triggers and solutions for managing anger and has arrived at a 4 word solution, abbreviated to 4 letters: RIPP. To me, the 4 words and the techniques that surround them have great depth. They appeal to my intellect, my spirit and my heart. They are extremely powerful when used correctly and consistently.
When you find yourself in the fiery chasms of an anger response, the awareness of Gary’s teachings summarized as “RIPP” is all you need to harmonise your mind, body and spirit and find inner peace when it matters most. By condensing all the complexities of anger management into “RIPP”, Gary has achieved a method that is pragmatic and realistic in the moment when our conscious mind is at its most unsettled and least likely to get a grip. Rather than explode, we instead find that we can internally state “I am RIPPing” and that alone is enough to trigger the anger to subside - to allow us to accept our anger, restore calm and explore alternate, more productive ways of expressing our anger.
Gary is a master of promoting self-awareness in the very moment of anger surfacing and providing effective tooling to dissipate anger and avoid the inevitable aftermath that anger so often inflicts.
Gary can teach you how to turn anger into peace with his techniques. RIPP is a simple solution. However, the simplest of solutions can emerge from great underlying complexity and analysis... and more importantly, the simplest solution possible is what we truly need in the most chaotic moments of an impending explosion. Being able to utter RIPP in my mind is far more effective than any other tool or technique I have encountered for dealing with anger.
I cannot recommend Gary’s teachings enough for anyone who has suffered from their anger response and wants to free themselves from an angry life.
- Adam T, Ireland July 2018
I was aware for many years that I needed help in coping with the large amount of anger and defensiveness that I was carrying around. I suffered explosive anger which could be occasionally violent. I was regularly "hurt" and backed into a defensive corner, but I was so scared of traditional counselling, where I knew a lot of time was spent dwelling on the past and I knew this would only hinder me and exacerbate my problems, as it has done for so many people who have sought help through regular counselling.
I went to see Gary after looking for many years for someone I thought might really help break the cycle of anger and regret that I suffered from. To say that I was cynical of any help is an understatement but I was desperate.
Gary explained his methods to me, which seemed so simple that I genuinely thought this had no chance at a lasting deep change in me.
After 5 minutes with Gary he had honed in on something I hadn't even spoken about to him, a time in my life which was so influential on my anger. He recognised it, pinpointed it and started to dig down to the real root of my uncontrolled rages.
After 3 sessions with Gary real, permanent changes had happened to my mindset, my mood, my outlook and my acceptance to what was. His methods are very real, lasting and make absolute sense. This isn't anger management, this is a very simple, but very clever and effective way of letting the past go and realising how useless those feelings of anger are. My anger has gone. Simply and permanently.
After 6 sessions I have left behind damaging aspects of my life that I had dragged around for so long.
This has had a huge positive impact on all aspects of my life. My children are happier. My outlook on my career seems very clear, my partner is astounded and very grateful that my deep rooted anger no longer shadows our relationship.
I'm happier. I worry less. I am able to think clearer. I like how I feel and I'm constantly coming across things which, in the past, would have triggered anger and unreasonable defensiveness in me, and I'm astounded at how I spent years ruining my life and making those around me pay for something which has been so easy and rewarding to give up.
Gary's methods are far reaching. He has quiet confidence, obvious great experience in his field and his methods, I believe, could have a great impact on many areas of disfunctional behaviour.
I'm still astounded that the baggage I hauled around for so many years, which damaged me and so many people I loved for so long, has gone. I'm not managing it. Im not hiding it. Im not transferring the hurt onto anything else. It's just simply gone.
Needless to say, I'm still so blown away by the changes in me and I think that Gary's methods should be used extensively as there are so many people who could benefit so much from letting the past go.
The day I left Gary's office feeling so light and feeling like a cloud had cleared was one of the very best of my adult life. I very much wish I had found Gary many years ago.
Jess Cheltenham October 2015
I called Gary in December looking for immediate help dealing with what at the time felt like overwhelming work and personal stress. The impact of the stress was making it near impossible for me to do my job and to function properly as a father to my children, to be honest I was struggling to see a way forwards. Recognising the need for help turned out to be the hardest part of my journey towards recovery and importantly it is recovery, rather than managing the symptoms that Gary has helped me achieve. After just one session I knew I had come to the right place and person in Gary. His easy and relaxing style along with incisive mind and methodical approach meant that we made rapid progress to identify the root causes (key to fixing me was knowing what made me who I am and that its ok). We worked on the root issues in a supportive and focussed way and now it's clear to me (and others) that I've taken a huge leap forwards. I can now identify and address the root causes before they trigger the stressful cycles that had caused me such pain. I am a better, more functional person and put that down, in no small part to Gary,his skills and methodology.
Mr C, Gloucester January 2016
I came to Gary a few years ago with an anxiety disorder and self confidence issues. I only saw Gary for 3 visits but fast forward to today and the anxiety that once plagued my life has never returned and I have gone on to get married, have a beautiful baby and start up my own business - all things I never thought I could have achieved without his help. I can't really explain how it happened but my whole mindset just shifted in a matter of weeks and I became able to enjoy normal day to day living without worrying about what could happen in the future or feeling regretful about what had happened in the past. I would recommend Gary to any family and friends who needed help without hesitation. His methods are so quick paced and effective - and nothing feels better than regaining control of your life again.
Thanks so much
Katerine Feb 2017
I was given Gary’s name and number following two nasty incidents whilst out cycling. I am an amateur road racing cyclist and spend many hours a week riding on local roads. As such, an accident is always a possibility and having had many near misses and been threatened quite a few times by aggressive drivers I knew it was only a matter of time. Unfortunately it finally happened and I was deliberately hit off my bike from behind by an angry driver who left me for dead and drove off!
I was lucky not to have been killed and only incurred some nasty bruises and cuts. Initially I felt very little about the accident……no fear or anger…….just disbelief that someone could do that to another human being. A week or so later I started getting nightmares and the fear, anger and reality of the event hit me. I tried to just carry on and went back to riding as normal but I was constantly stressed and apprehensive. 2 months later whilst riding I was run down again. This time it was an accident (didn’t look before turning) and I ended up in hospital with nasty bruises and cuts but again, very lucky really.
I recovered from the physical injuries but my head had started to go to pieces. I felt angry all the time, sometimes upset, sometimes very tired and sleep was intermittent. A month later I had my first road race and hated every moment of it. I was actually scared and fearful during it and after 20 miles I pulled over and got off my bike. I realised I had to do something about it and contacted Gary.
I only had two sessions with him but everything changed………
We discussed what had happened and he explained why I felt why I did, why the anger was there and how to deal with it and what it was that made it so difficult for me to ride my bike again. It was amazing how quickly I changed. The anger receded and I regained control of myself, even when dealing with aggressive car drivers again I was able to remain in control and not lose my head even though I was angry. My wife noticed the immediate change in me and I remain to this day a much better and balanced person since the meetings which has helped in my everyday life as well as on the bike.
I greatly admired Gary’s way of listening and explaining to me the motions and emotions we all go through in our lives. The things we discussed and the way to deal with them had never occurred to me before, even though they seemed obvious after the discussion. He seems to have a great understanding of the way our minds work…….he knew mine better than I did anyway!
Nick Preece January 2016
Gary was recommended to me by a friend as I was having increasing issues within my relationship and with my family.
I felt nervous leading up to the initial meeting but Gary’s ability to listen and explain reasons why I could be experiencing this constant rage made me feel better even after the first session. I left feeling an immediate relief from the stress of my anger and anxiety. For the first time in many years felt that there would be an end to these out of control bursts of temper and rage.
In the second meeting I was amazed at how quick we got the cause of my explosive anger, it was an unbelievable feeling, it’s difficult to describe the instant sense of freedom that I felt, it was as if a knot had been released in my stomach, a knot I didn’t even realise had been there for 20 years!
Gary’s ability to get to the reason for my erratic and frightening emotions so very quickly and his way of explaining complex behavioural patterns has made it easy for me to understand my reactions and enables me to visualise these emotions so they something I can now control.
I now know why I used to react the way I did but more importantly, moving forward, it has made it easy for me to recognise potential triggers and situations. I now have the tools to break these cycles, I stay calm, realistic and positive where before I would have struggled to stay in control – these tools are invaluable and have changed my life.
For the first time ever I have been able to put my past in my past and be excited for mine and my family’s future. I needed to get control for the sake of my young son; I didn’t ever want him to see me when I lost control. I am free from a dark cloud and the feeling can only be described as total elation!
This has been an incredible journey for me I still cannot believe I have only seen Gary three times. I am forever grateful as he has given me my life back and would recommend to anyone to go and see him.
Hannah Cheltenham May 2015
My reply to Hannah: Hello Hannah thank you for the testimonial it describes what's happening in my work with clients so well. The process is amazingly effective and very fast, it's hard for people who haven't experience it to believe that such change can happen so quickly.
I have been a counsellor for 15 years and worked with many counsellors at counselling centres, I have had hundreds of hours of group and one to one supervision, what's happening in my therapy room is unheard of and quite unbelievable but your experience is the norm with my clients. Thank you for describing it so perfectly! I have developed the method myself over the years and I'm currently writing a training course which tries to explain the theory behind its success and in doing so it seems to have increased its effectiveness! A testimonial like yours helps me to spread the word and hopefully one day we will have other counsellors using my methods as they certainly seem to be the most effective anyone has ever come across. I regularly email clients going back a few years and ask if things are still going okay for them and no one had reverted back to their old ways, so it seems to be fast and permanent. Let me know if you ever need help again.
My husband and I were experiencing difficulties in our relationship, constant bickering and arguing which would eventually build up to an explosive argument where either my husband or I would storm off out of the house. After the last major argument my husband packed his bags and left, threatening to leave for good, this was when I decided that we couldn’t carry on like this, we needed help! I knew my husband would agree to see a counsellor as we still loved each other very much and we both wanted to get to the bottom of why this was happening to us. Gary was not recommended to me, I found him on the internet and I am so thankful that I did, all the testimonials were very helpful in making our decision. On our first session with Gary my husband and I saw him together, it got a little argumentative at times but Gary managed the situation amazingly, he made us understand why we were acting the way we were and, unbeknown to us, he made us realise that our past traumatic relationships were transferring into our current relationship. We left after the first session feeling really elated, although we knew we still had issues that needed sorting, after just one session with Gary it was like a weight had been lifted off our shoulders. We saw Gary separately for a further two sessions; this was helpful because we told Gary things that we wouldn’t say in front of one another for fear of upsetting the other. Again, he made us realise that some of this transference of behaviour wasn’t just from our past relationships it went way back to our childhood, this was such an eye-opener. For our final session we saw Gary together and we were like a different couple, I can honestly say that things have changed so much for the better between us. We are now more conscious of our behaviour towards one another, the bickering has stopped and we have not had another explosive argument since. Gary has been a life saver to our relationship and I think every couple could benefit from a counselling session with Gary. He saved our marriage and I cannot thank him enough!
Mr & Mrs D, Worcestershire
At the beginning of this year I had an anxiety dream. My family had all had a run of the mill winter vomiting bug and I was anxious about getting it myself. I woke up in a panic having a panic attack. This was not normal for me as I didn’t suffer with anxiety on a day to day basis. I felt increasingly stressed and anxious and I looked on the internet for help near to me. I googled ‘phobia’ and ‘dealing with anxiety’ in the Cheltenham area and Gary Redmond came up. I sent an email to the address on the website and was contacted by Gary later that day to make an appointment. I instantly felt better after seeking help and Gary’s informal approach made it much easier to attend the appointment. I found his kind manner and relaxed room helped me to open up and discuss my issue, to which he immediately understood and helped me deal with.
The information and tools he gave me are invaluable and the difference his guidance has made for me and my family is priceless. I met with Gary twice and felt like a different person. I have recommended Gary to other family members and friends already with a variety of issues to which they have had and continue to have life changing results within very few appointments. I can’t thank Gary enough for his help.
Jenny. Worcestershire 21st April 2015
Firstly, thank you for your help with my anger issues. I’m confident now that you have helped me to make the changes that I have needed to make for years. I’m very glad that I came to see you and that I’ve chosen not to let any more of those years go by while my relationships suffer.
Your method appears to be deceptively simple: all it seemed to need from me was honesty and a will to make a change. You told me when we first met that this would be the case, and that things would improve surprisingly quickly. You were right.
And I have come away with what feels like clear and reliable ways to make sure this change is permanent.
I would not hesitate to recommend you to anyone. Thanks again, and best wishes.
I didn’t know what to expect when I first visited Gary. I guess I was going to “lie on the couch” and talk about myself whilst he passively listened, delivered his rehearsed spiel, gave me some cognitive behaviour exercises, blah, blah, blah. Having had some previous experience and preconceived ideas, I was sceptical to say the least. Well, all I can say is, that didn’t happen! It was very much a two-way discussion. As Gary said to me, it’s not necessarily talking about things you don’t want to talk about, but also hearing things that you might not want to hear. This was not in the form of negative criticism, but rather busting open long held perceptions and behaviours. It’s not that Gary told me how and what to think and do, I would have hated that, he only told me why I think and do things the way I do. This helped me to understand my inner frustrations and turmoil, by giving me some surprising insights into where my perceptions and reactions come from. Equally as importantly, and as a result of this, it has helped me to modify my outward reactions. He has helped me to learn “to engage my brain before putting my mouth into gear”. It has also enabled me to realise that others have certain conditioned thoughts and reactions, which are inevitably going to be different to mine. This has given me an empathy with others that I have never had before. Due to this simple education, the rage at perceived injustices, that was always just below the surface, has disappeared in a very short space of time. It’s not that it's just been suppressed, but quite simply, has vanished completely and I have attained an inner peace that I would not have thought possible just a short time ago. Perhaps most surprisingly, it has been a pleasurable and enlightening experience and I now have a hunger to not only discover more about myself, but about others too. A little knowledge is a very powerful thing.
Patrick Wilson. Cheltenham 2016
I feel so blessed to have Gary in my life. His unique guidance has allowed me to get myself into a positive, fulfilling, headspace, that I would never have thought imaginable ?
In my sessions with him, and from the depths of my soul, emerged huge positive revelations, about the way I think of myself ?
It was a relief, and so joyous, like the weight had been lifted off my shoulders !
I had done many, many, CBT sessions with another councellor prior to this, and always felt that this type of therapy was about breaking, and then replacing one set of personal rules with another ?
Gary has his own unique, groundbreaking therapy, RBR (Rapid Behavioural Reconditioning) which I would wholeheartedly recommend ? Its a spiritual journey ( and I am not at all 'hippy' if you can excuse that generic term )
You will feel at ease with him, straight way, with the way he engages with you, and before you know it, you will be feeling the light, in the 'now', as I have done.
Mr A H Cheltenham 2016
I was suffering from PTSD and a difficult relationship patch, along with ill health, and needed a Counsellor who wouldn't just sit and nod at me, but would actually interact with me and help rationalise my thoughts. Gary was that man, poor thing! He was very calm, has great presence and is very thoughtful, but will challenge you when appropriate - which was exactly what I needed. He also helped my fiancé greatly with his anger issues, we would not still be together if it weren't for Gary! Re the PTSD I am now practically 'normally' as he helped me separate the trauma from reality, which has massively lowered my stress levels down to a manageable level. If you need a Counsellor, get Gary, you won't regret it!
Shelly Bailey. Bristol. 2015
I went to Gary after my third long term relationship had broken down, my daughters were disappointed in me, my family had failed me and let me go years ago. I was drinking too much too often, I really felt and looked like a broken woman. I had only 4 sessions with Gary. During the very first session he identified the issues in my life and there were plenty that were being dealt with by my inner child, her need to be loved not abandoned, her need of trust, respect and loyalty were causing, me, the adult to revert to my sad childhood emotions when dealing with the majority of things! Gary taught me to be 'OK even if things aren't ok' to 'empower' myself and most importantly to 'stay in the now' and to love my inner child and let the adult 'me' reign supreme. Gary is straightforward, plain speaking but really does identify with you. He gave his time when I needed reassurance and sent me informative links which have given me great insight. I very highly recommend Gary and appreciate greatly his help so I can get my life back on track!
Mrs B. Cheltenham 2016
I came in to see you about quitting cigarettes but you very quickly realised that I was suffering from grief for a very long time, over 50 years in fact. After what seemed like a few chats I walked away a different man.Your kindness knowledge and experience helped me to unlock everything I had held in since my mother's death when when I was a kid. All with just a suggestion here and a verbal nudge there.Thank you again so much for all your help and I would recommend you to anyone.
When someone close to me suggested therapy, I honestly didn't think it would be for me in any way, shape or form. What? To sit with someone who doesn't know you and then you tell them personal things? How can this help? All I can say is that a weight has been lifted from me. Some things that I carried around for years have now left, never to return. It's hard to explain but when the penny drops, it's like you know your never going back to dragging all that unwanted baggage around again. To be open and honest in safe environment has changed everything for me. If a hiccup occurs (which I highly doubt) I know Gary will be there to put me back on track.
Mr C.P. Stroud 2014
Running a small but stressful business I found my self becoming more unable to cope with home life after a days work. I would loose my temper over trivial issues and I was unable to let go an move on from them. Gary's methods which he has named RBR enabled me to stop and think about why I was losing my temper and made me realise that there was no need for it and made me able to deal with my temper and save myself and my family from the upset it caused.
I would recommend RBR to anyone who feels that they cannot cope with stress or who is finding themselves losing their temper unnecessarily. RBR has been hugely beneficial to myself and my family.
Mr A.T. Gloucester 2014
After a blow to the head in a car accident my ability to control my temper was completely gone. My Fiancée was about to finish with me as I was shouting at her constantly and she couldn't take any more. Gary was able to help me deal with my anger and with his help I am completely cured, it's like having a weight lifted from your shoulders. His way of dealing with the anger is simple but very effective and I can't thank him enough for the changes he's helped me make.
Mr J.C. Bristol 2014
I sought Anger Management when I realised that throughout my life I had been a fundamentally angry person. The realisation finally occurred after another relationship broke down because of my angry outbursts. Anger up to this point had ruined my life! In my first meeting with Gary, he identified the childhood cause of my condition and the reason for my subsequent behaviour pattern. In subsequent meetings he explored other aspects of my character that also had an impact on my anger. The process was all about understanding the cause and becoming aware of the triggers. It then felt like a very straight forward and simple process of dealing with these triggers differently and changing my life-long behaviour. I really feel different now. I am dealing with issues that previously would have caused anger and pain in a much more positive way. Gary`s methods are quite amazing in their simplicity. I wish I`d met him 30 years ago. Thank you Gary
Mr A.C. Cheltenham 2014
Meeting Gary was the best thing I have done in regards to my personal wellbeing. I had over the years tried counselling, however it left me feeling worse as I had to go through the events that led me to seeing the counsellor.
Whereas with Gary it's different he taught me how to deal with the problem and that I'm in control. He taught me how compassion and love is a great healer and great way to survive.
On top of all this, Gary is a lovely man who I have found to be direct in his approach and passionate about his working and belief in his work. This is what I feel make him a success.
Mrs S.S. Cheltenham
I would not have visited Gary and undertaken the anger management sessions if my wife had not explained to me that I did not now have any choice if we wanted to stay together as a family. I guess that over the last 20 years I did not really feel I was the problem. It was always someone else’s fault when I flayed up and got angry with my family. I did however go to Gary with a totally open mind and a conviction that I would always tell the truth and accept the feedback however hard I might find it. From the very first session I was able to open up and discuss through Gary’s methods with honesty and I knew that this approach would really help. I was going to stop after a couple of sessions as I felt the issues had been discussed but my wife insisted that I continue. We did discuss each session at home afterwards and I came back to Gary with further revelations. In all I had 6 sessions with Gary. I am still unsure what he really did but I know he has transformed my life and my families and I am very grateful indeed. I am especially pleased that my children will at least see me in a new light before they go off to University and I can only hope that I will not have scared them too much. We are much happier at home and are getting on and doing activities together.
Mr M.S. Cheltenham
I was very troubled at the time when I saw Gary. After the second time talking to him I experienced a wave of relief. Though I slipped back into anxiety, I found each session helpful. Sometimes just being understood, sometimes being able to rethink, at other times helpful ideas would occur to me much later. It was a process I had to go through, but it helped immensely to talk to someone I found highly intelligent, perceptive and with a philosophy which challenged me to examine my often unhelpful ways of thinking. I have seen several counsellors and even one or two psychiatrists in my time, but I would have no hesitation in saying that Gary helped more. If you are looking for an effective, kindly and even challenging counsellor to help you, then I would have no hesitation in wholeheartedly recommending Gary.
I came to realise that through my anger I had become someone I did not want to be and that it had been affecting my relationship with my wife and family for some time. I knew a little about counselling which is why I chose to see Gary, however, his approach was not what I had assumed. Talking to Gary was like talking to a friend who understood exactly how I felt, and showed me how I was unconsciously setting the wheels in motion for an outburst. This came as a revelation to me, but now I understand the thought processes involved in the lead up to an outburst they no longer happen. I would definitely recommend this process as it is insightful and works in a very short space of time. Can I take this opportunity Gary to thank you for showing me a better way.
Mr P.F. Gloucestershire
A few months ago I found myself in an emotional state that was spiralling out of control rapidly. Failed relationships, rapidly increasing stress levels which was turning me into an angry man and a nightmare to live with.
I had touched on my issues with GP but the free services she pointed out never returned a call or email…. Sign of the times I kept telling myself .be patient help will come to me eventually and these services were probably inundated with people with needs far greater than mine.
After a good cry whilst driving to see my partner I decided right enough is enough. if the help won’t come to me I will find some before I find the hole I was sinking into gets too deep ….so I searched for somebody local who could possibly help. … it wasn’t long before I found the services of Gary Redmond…. I pondered and finally picked up courage to make that call. Upon dialling the phone was promptly answered and after a brief discussion I was offered an initial consultation followed by a course or alternatively get straight down to business on the first meeting. Well I chose the let’s get on with it I needed help and sooner the better.
Meeting number one …. upon finding his office conveniently located in central Cheltenham I was greeted by Gary and warmly welcomed to his office … from this point onwards I was in very unknown territory. Nervous was an understatement! with myself sat in what can only be described as very comfy chair Gary began to change my life for ever. before long I was talking to him like a best friend everything just spilled out poor bloke must have thought what have I got here …. after what seemed an eternity the session drew to a close with Gary advising that a further five sessions would have me in a better place .as I left and to be honest was feeling rather strange. a nice strange a though something was happening to me but what was it. anyway I continued my regular sessions for a further two visits ……. then on the fourth visit I was asked to revisit a recent situation that USED to enrage my anger. however hard I tried the anger didn’t surface …. not even remotely! the time had come for this 45-year-old bloke to begin living a life I could only have ever dreamt about. So my advice to anybody who feels their life is spiralling downwards out of control get Gary details and make contact with him you won’t regret it! Ps before you think this is some sort of weird sales promotion it isn’t, its simply the truth. ….
Mr I. A. Cheltenham 2016
"After being racked with stress induced anxiety for a number of months due to overcommitting at work I decided to arrange some sessions with Gary, within a few hourly visits Gary helped me quickly regain control of my resources and tools to combat the constant worry and pain that anxiety causes. I am now back to my happy self and loving life again! I will not hesitate to contact Gary in the future if demanding times call for it"
Mr P.H. Gloucester
I came to Gary for help when my entire world and identity had crashed. My father with whom I had had a very difficult childhood was very ill with dementia. My mother was in complete denial. I had just been through an agonising court divorce which I didn't want as my husband had had an affair with my good friend and left me virtually penniless as I had given up my career to support his. I had also had a rare illness which resulted in my losing the sight in one eye and a lengthy stay in hospital. I had become addicted to valium. I was angry, depressed and totally utterly lost.
Gary gave me the tools to start to see my situation as fluid..not fixed forever. He showed me how living in the moment could ease my immediate hurt but still allow me to be practical and plan. He helped me see I was a woman with a future not a fat, frumpy over 50 divorcee, It was sometimes painful but always constructive. Today I have a good job I am back in a position of authority, I deal better with my father's illness and I am calmer. Gary is a man of tremendous insight and compassion and can see through game playing. I credit him with helping me to turn my life around and to anyone thinking of seeing him I'd say 'Go. There are therapists and therapists. Gary is pure gold
Ms. Debbie Raikes May. Gloucestershire
This is coming from someone highly skeptical about how effective traditional Psychology actually is, and I'll be honest, I went in expecting nothing good or helpful to happen at all; it was really just to humour my other half. In my case, I needed help coming to terms with a difficult past situation; I expected months of Psychological analysis ahead and thousands of pounds worth of bills, but within three sessions I was completely fixed, and not just with my one main problem - several other problems suddenly disappeared as well as a result. The reason for this is because Gary doesn't practice Psychology, he practices Truths, which he offers on 3 levels. The first is directly related to the situation you're in, and how to constructively solve it by coming to terms with it, and bringing subconscious behaviours into awareness. The immediate result can only be described as an "awakening" and is incredibly exciting to behold. The second is the obscure, "I don't really get it" advice that you walk away with between sessions - it takes a week or two to sink in, but once you have subconsciously processed it and put his ideas into practice, you notice the world in a completely different light. You wake up one morning with everything making sense, and wondering how you were changed overnight for seemingly no reason. The third is advice that is not directly related to the situation at hand, but can be applied to issues stemming from it - for example, the signs of unhappiness that others show to try and passively affect change in their situations. I have recommended Gary to other people and I haven't seen a problem that Gary hasn't solved so far, and I doubt I ever will - the guy is a miracle worker, plain and simple. And the best part is that all of those little "exercises" most therapists give you to do - like rubbing your ears, counting to 10 and downing tranquillisers - you won't see any of that nonsense here, much to my relief. So, you might want to bring as much emotional baggage with you as possible, because you won't have it for very long.
Mr Gareth Steward. Gloucestershire.
Through a series of some six meetings Gary took me through a process to help me understand anger. Firstly to understand my anger and how it affected my life, health, and relationships. Finally with a great deal of patience he persisted until the penny dropped. I now feel have not only the ability to control and deal with issues that go back five decades or so but also to appreciate and enjoy life to the full in the future. I cannot thank Gary enough for what he has done for me and would have no hesitation in recommending his work.
Mr T.I. Cheltenham
"I always thought anger was part of 'me' an inherited characteristic. I was also very sceptical of 'counsellors'. One session with Gary - that's all - changed my perception of both for good. Gary's methods - nothing hypnotic or anything like that - are from my personal experience, unique, and highly effective."
Dr. Gloucestershire UK
Although I knew I suffered with OCD I had no idea how to tackle it. Gary was able to see me at very short notice and within one session offered me an alternative way of viewing my behaviour that I had never considered. His approach is direct and to the point. After a few minutes of talking, he identified what was triggering my OCD and explained the mechanics of how and why it worked. Once I understood the OCD I was open to a more positive and logical way of looking at my decisions. Gary made it clear that consciously changing my behavioural patterns and removing OCD from my life was going to be hard work and it has been. However, as I am now armed with the correct tools to deal with the issue, it is not a problem and I am now able to reduce the effect it has on my life more and more every day. The difference in my life since seeing Gary is quite marked; I will be forever grateful!
Mr N. C. Gloucestershire
I had worked for the same organisation for over 35 years and for the majority of time had been quite happy. However, changes within the organisation and to a certain extent myself, found me very disillusioned. A chance presented itself, enabling me to leave, which I took; so I found myself in early retirement. Great ... Not so. My life had taken quite a sudden change, and I wasn't prepared for the void which my egotistic self found. I have quite a few interests, am healthy, but found this was really affecting me and it was beginning to eat in to other aspects of my life. I found I needed someone to talk to and after a little research on the internet decided to contact Gary. I had six sessions with Gary and we talked about a whole host of things; including touching on spiritual topics which I found more valuable than I thought I would. Gary lets you talk and set your own pace and agenda, gently throwing in the odd question which stops you in your tracks and makes you think or reflect on certain issues. At the end of my time with Gary, I thought 'you know I'm in a pretty good place and always had been' I just couldn't see it because I always wanted to project myself somewhere else. If you do see Gary don't forget to sample his coffee collection. Thanks for your help Gary
Mr A.M. Cheltenham
I have suffered from OCD and anxiety for a number of years and it started to ruin my life and relationships. It was at this point that I decided to start counselling with Gary Redmond and it has changed my life for the better; more than I could have imagined. After only six sessions my OCD went from having to check the plugs, light switches and doors numerous times every day to having to check once and then leave satisfied. He has taught me the ability to live in the present moment and not fixate on what might happen in the future and for this I will be forever grateful. As well as the fantastic results Gary achieved in my personal case, I also think it is commendable at how quickly he resolves your issues (about 6 sessions) as this shows his commitment to improving your lifestyle.
Woman 23. Gloucestershire UK
I found working with you enabled me to listen to my own instinct by clearing away the 'obstacles' that seemed to be in the way. They weren't actually 'obstacles' at all, they were just worries about what might happen in the future. I quickly took action based on the 'here and now' as you taught me and have not looked back. I am now doing a job I could never have thought possible, and also successfully embarked on retraining. I was able to learn to listen to myself and not seek external approval and validation for the things I want to do. It has saved me literally years in getting where I wanted to be. The sessions were very empowering and left me able to view my past through the eyes of my 'Now' as an adult. The relief was enormous.
Woman 40. Cambridgeshire UK
My coaching and counselling sessions with Gary were an invaluable source for assisting me to move forward, they helped shed light in many areas of my life where there was darkness. I learned a lot about myself in turn allowing me to become the real me. The sessions were very informative and at the same time also a lot of fun. They helped me to grow as a person as I began to realise my full potential. After each session I felt more in control of my state and therefore much happier. I am also a better wife and mother because of it. I had 5 sessions that were over the phone with Skype and it worked perfectly, even with the time difference between Australia and UK. I am so glad and lucky to have found Gary and I thank him from the bottom of my heart.
Woman 30. Sydney Australia.
Being successful in the business of developing people I was one of the last to think I could receive beneficial help from a counsellor. How wrong I was. For many years I was that counsellor – now I needed one myself. I had achieved my lifetime business goals by the age of fifty, retired one year later and just kept doing the occasional contract when I wanted to. Seemed like a happy situation to me. My marriage on the other hand was a completely different story. I was now living at home throughout the day and everyday. Very soon our relationship suffered and my anger management was non-existent. The smallest of things would trigger major arguments. We quickly became very unhappy and there seemed to be no answer. Parting was inevitable. My desperation pushed me to the computer and I asked Google for a “result orientated anger management counsellor in Cheltenham” – and Google responded with Gary Redmond in Cheltenham. I sent an email and a response came quickly via the phone. A few words on the telephone and we were soon discussing ‘the’ problems face to face. I thought they weren’t my problems at this stage – wrong again! At first it was awkward but soon, very soon, Gary steered the conversation to my problems and concerns – and how I could make things a lot easier for myself (and my loving wife). After our first meeting I was feeling a lot happier, my wife could see small positive changes and I felt highly motivated to make this change happen. Five meetings later I am a new man. The past is merely the past – I hardly think about it. For the first time I have been able to stand outside myself and witness what I do. For the first time I am able to control my ‘egoic thoughts’ and keep my fast thinking mind at bay. Everyone needs a friend to talk things through and in today’s fast moving ‘people don’t matter’ environment – and these friends can be hard to find. Talk to Mr Redmond about it – you will be surprised and definitely rewarded.
Man 58. Gloucestershire UK
I contacted Gary for multiple issues, i.e. anxiety, low moods, and problems at work and in relationships. In a couple of sessions he helped me gain new insights about why I thought and behaved in the self-sabotaging way I did, insights that I hadn't gotten after years of therapy. After this, I was able to make different, more empowering than disempowering meaning of things. I also made some critical distinctions about my behaviour so I was able to change it in the situations I was struggling with. When I started to overcome some of these hurdles it left me with a new sense of possibility, and besides the directions and support for these specific challenges, I also got some simple but effective tools to generally handle my emotions better and not always be stuck in my head, i.e., troubled about the past or the future. Today things are so much better and I have made great strides especially in my relationship life, honestly I couldn't have thought I'd reach this point!
Man 30 Munich Germany
I went to see Gary after my divorce as I felt that I had lost some of my confidence and was struggling to process certain emotions relating to some difficult family events that had also happened around that time. During my first session I immediately felt better about one particular issue that had been bothering me for some time as Gary enabled me to look at things in a completely different way and release the guilt that I had been carrying around. Subsequent sessions helped me process and mentally reframe a number of other issues and feelings in a way that was easy and comfortable. I found Gary friendly and easy to talk to but also professional and knowledgeable. The sessions I had with him helped me to get my life back on track and give me a new perspective. I now have a new career and am in a supportive, loving relationship.
I would recommend Gary to anyone who needs help dealing with the various challenges and changes that life brings along.