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What is an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder?

The description says it all, but still it is not being treated properly. If a behaviour has become a ‘compulsion’ then it has become a very powerful habit.

If we want to change a habit for life, we need to understand our subconscious conditioning and how habits are formed.

Once formed, an OCD has a strong and significant affect on our behaviour and it can be very resistant to being changed or altered. I know how hard people try to overcome their OCD and they really do put a great deal of effort into fighting against what they understand is their ‘need’ to follow rituals and behave in a certain way. They try the use of willpower to overcome their OCD habit. It sometimes feels like the more they try, the harder they fail.

OCD's are often triggered by an emotion, and an emotion is the body’s reaction to a thought or a belief. People who have an OCD know that it feels necessary to act out their rituals and behaviour because they believe they ‘need’ to do this in order to relieve a feeling of anxiety (fear) or stress. Their behaviour makes them feel more relaxed, but the problem is that this only lasts for a very short time before it starts all over again. The OCD creates a ‘trance-like’ state that takes a person away from their anxiety or worries for a while, and therefore it works for them on some level!

It is true that you would lose something if you gave up your OCD. Giving up an OCD often represents ‘pain’ to most people suffering from an OCD, but of course, on the other hand, not giving up the OCD represents ‘pain’ too. They often feel that they are 'between a rock and a hard place'!

People suffering from an OCD constantly try to keep these two opposing pains in balance by saying, “I will stop it one day”, or they deny that the behaviour and rituals are a problem to them. But all the time there is this niggling voice in their heads that says "I must stop this". Very often, the behaviours and rituals can continue day and night, and the person suffering OCD is worn down and worn out by the time they seek help. The OCD often results in the loss of relationships, jobs, and friends, and it affects a person’s mental and physical health, leaving them isolated and trapped in the world that the OCD has created for them.

What can I do for you?

I can help you to overcome your phobia, not by teaching you how to use more willpower against it - you and I know that doesn't work! I will teach you how to use the right ‘key’ that will unlock the door to your freedom from your phobia suffering.

This ‘key’ is understanding the phobia/habits, how they work, and how to change them!

My phobia sessions are
not hypnosis sessions; they are conscious explorations of your phobia/habits in detail. During these sessions we will uncover and bring into your consciousness your subconscious conditioned phobia/habits in detail. You will begin to understand why you feel the need to have your phobia, and then we will then find ways to change.

With all behavioural habits there is a 'cycle' which first begins with a cue, which then triggers a conditioned behaviour, which then leads to a reward… The cycle is completed and lays dormant until it rises into consciousness again.

Once we understand the cue we can substitute the unhealthy behaviour with a new healthier behaviour. We therefore still satisfy the cue and get the reward, and the new behaviour becomes a new habit. I like to imagine that the cue and the reward are the book ends of the habit, and the behaviour is the process between the two. All three need to be understood as a whole, otherwise the new behaviour does not become the new habit and you will return to the old behaviour and the old habit again. This is why the Rapid Behavioural Reconditioning Sessions are so effective.

Although I knew I suffered with OCD I had no idea how to tackle it. Gary was able to see me at very short notice and within one session offered me an alternative way of viewing my behaviour that I had never considered. His approach is direct and to the point.  After a few minutes of talking, he identified what was triggering my OCD and explained the mechanics of how and why it worked. Once I understood the OCD I was open to a more positive and logical way of looking at my decisions. Gary made it clear that consciously changing my behavioural patterns and removing OCD from my life was going to be hard work and it has been. However, as I am now armed with the correct tools to deal with the issue, it is not a problem and I am now able to reduce the effect it has on my life more and more every day.  The difference in my life since seeing Gary is quite marked; I will be forever grateful!
Mr N. C. Gloucestershire
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