Many people suffering from bereavement try Person Centred Counselling or Mindfulness and they both are a help. From my practice in Cheltenham I work with my clients using RBR (Rapid Behavioural Reconditioning) Read the testimonials telling how fast and effective this newest form of therapy is. Working with bereaved clients requires a great deal of sensitivity and understanding on the part of the counsellor. A large part of bereavement counselling is to provide a supportive environment for a bereaved person to talk and express feelings that they may find difficult to express among family or friends from fear of upsetting others also suffering from the pain of loss.
Bereavement is a natural process which has evolved within us. My work is to help to facilitate that process so that it comes to completion and helps the bereaved person move forward in their lives. Part of the natural process is the resistance to letting go and moving on, we don't want to move on, we don't want to let go. Over time we come to realise that some things cannot be changed no matter how much we want them to be different to what they are. Eventually we are forced to accept the unacceptable, this struggle with 'what is' is the work of the counsellor. Living with bereavement is the hardest challenge life can throw at us and it is never by our choosing but we have to learn how to cope with loss, a challenge none of us want to face. Being alone in your grief can make this process harder for you and so I am here to support you and provide the time and space for you to express your grief.
So if you feel that I can be of any help to you please contact me.
￼“Give sorrow words. The grief that does not speak whispers to the over fraught heart, and bids it break.”
I came to Gary at an increasingly difficult point in my life, my Mother with whom I was very close, had suddenly passed away, and I experienced a tremendous grief not only from the loss of my Mother but also from the failure I felt at the inability to defeat her 25 year acute bipolar disorder, this feeling of failure was compounded by initiating a final resuscitation attempt the morning of her death that also failed. The net impact was a myriad of very burdensome feelings ranging from loss, guilt, failure, grief, anxiety and rage. Garry's practical and personable approach helped me to gain a perspective that I hadn't want to consider or accept. After experiencing CBT ten years ago and gaining little value, Garry's understanding and insight were a revelation to me, helping to lift the heavy load proving much needed mental space to process accept and embrace reality. In a relatively short period of time he has provided the tools I need to be fit for life, accepting it wont all be a bed of roses but remaining grounded in the present is the best present we can give ourselves and others - thank you for your time Gary
Anonymous Cheltenham 2017
I came in to see you about quitting cigarettes but you very quickly realised that I was suffering from grief for a very long time, over 50 years in fact. After what seemed like a few chats I walked away a different man.Your kindness knowledge and experience helped me to unlock everything I had held in since my mother's death when when I was a kid. All with just a suggestion here and a verbal nudge there.Thank you again so much for all your help and I would recommend you to anyone.